I probably shouldn't be sharing this but....

So I was watching this interview with Terrance Howard on The Breakfast Club and it got me thinking....

It got me thinking about the roots of homophobia and how surprised I am when I encounter straight men that are genuinely comfortable around gay men and yet are still Kinsey 1 str8!

There's this MTF TG that is obsessing over me. At every opportunity she literally begs to suck my dick! Yet I am completely flaccid. Sure, a minor reason for that may be my aversion to vulgarity but honestly she does absolutely nothing for me sexually and I tell her every chance I get that I simply am not attracted to women. I am not repulsed, I am not offended, I don't go creating a scene because this tranny wants my peen...I just smile and move on.

I am secure in my homosexuality so her broad-shouldered amazonian frame and flowing yaki tresses do not bedazzle me.

Conversely, I have a few good friends that are straight men. They live up to all aspects of the Jamaican definition of hegemonic masculinity except the "thou shall bun battyman" prescription. I've noticed that given the fluidity of Jamaican sexuality, albeit clandestinely so, that many gay men feel that once a straight man is comfortable around gay men then he can be broken. They pass lewd remarks that they think are subtle, they ask personal questions about sexuality, and sometimes they even touch the man in a way that crosses boundaries and shocks me, and this is precisely because most other straight men that are vociferously homophobic in public are dick-hungry power bottoms in private.

Once, a particularly forward queen decided he wanted to check the girth of my straight friend's dick through his jeans (while he was wearing them in case you're not following). My heart dropped and I prepared for the ass-kicking of the century and yet dude just stood there, laughingly brushed off his hand and kept it moving.

I was so surprised and yet... why should I be?

I suppose it's because gay men are expected to be more in touch with their sexuality than straight men are and by experience straight men tend to be a bit touchy about probing sexual matters (pun intended).

Therefore it's expected that a gay man won't react like chicken licken when the sky is falling down if a woman thinks her chicken is in need of his lick'n BUT that a straight man would huff and puff and blow that fairy down if the poof offered him a blow.

My friend's reaction reminded me of my own reaction to being sexually harassed by Miss Jay.

This was very encouraging to me as I have this continuing internal discourse about human sexuality, the labels we apply to ourselves and how we define our own identities based on experiences.

Interesting times indeed.

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